Divorce Recovery & Bad Decisions: Will the 4 Traps Set by Resistance to Change Ruin Your Future?

At the heart of resistance to change are two powerful reactions: loss and fear. Distress over the losses caused by divorce and fear of an uncertain future. These emotion-based reactions to divorce can sabotage our problem-solving ability by setting four different, but related traps:

Trap #1. Concealing the issues that are not immediately obvious

In this trap your emotions cover up some real underlying issue related to your divorce. This makes it impossible to solve the real problem. For example, it is all too easy to see my ex as the problem, rather than realizing the real issue was my reluctance to let go of my attachments to “how life used to be” with my ex in it. That made it very difficult to get on with the next chapter in my life.

Trap #2. Exaggerating the importance of minor issues

In this trap your emotions blow the importance of a minor issue related to your divorce completely out of proportion. You turn a mole hill into a mountain, as the saying goes. For example, our pain and fear can escalate the minor problem of our ex being ten minutes late to pick up the kids for a weekend visit into a full-blown tirade about the ex’s lack of respect for me and how he or she “uses our kids as a weapon against me!” It’s just 10 minutes for goodness sakes!

Trap #3. Distorting our perceptions of the major issues

In this trap your emotions distort the reality of some big issue related to your divorce into either ignoring it or treating it as minor. For example, in our obsession with our anger and resentment over having lost our hopes and dreams for the life we have envisioned, we often fail to appreciate what the upside of divorce offers us. We can lose sight of the fact that we now can reinvent ourselves using all the wisdom gained over the years of our marriage plus the invaluable gifts of insight and self-knowledge our divorce has “forced upon us.” Divorce can be one of the biggest opportunities you will ever experience – if you allow it to be.

Trap #4. Preventing closure with a never-ending stream of “new” problems

In this trap your emotions create a never-ending stream of issues related to your divorce. The bundle of pain and fear seems to act like a very powerful “What if?” magnet which prevents us from accepting and dealing with simply “What is.” As one problem gets solved, we tell ourselves, such things as “OK, even though my ex did not like the outcome, the issue of child support is resolved. But what if he doesn’t pay it on time? What if he simply refuses to pay it? What if he loses his job and can’t pay it at all? WHAT WILL I DO THEN?” Like ducks in an arcade shooting gallery, when one target is hit, another one pops up to take its place thanks to that bundle of pain and fear that is part and parcel of getting divorced. Where there is festering pain and fear, the supply of disaster fantasies is infinite.

The Consequences Are Monumental

Making a recovery from divorce forces you to make an untold number of decisions, some small others so major that they will affect the rest of your life. You need to be able to be aware of the issues that matter, tell the major ones from the minor, have a clear-headed understanding of the issues that really count, and make sure the decisions you do make do not come back at you in an unending cycle of incompleteness.

If you dissolve your resistance to the changes that accompany divorce, you will be successful in making the best decisions for your life after divorce. If you do not dissolve your resistance to change, you will be doomed to a future of failure.

The Benefits of Stainless Steel Roller Chains

Typically, roller chains can be found in a lot of mechanically powered systems. For instance, you can find them in a number of environments like automotive industries and agriculture systems. Examples of automotive industries they are used in are bicycles and motorcycles. In this article, we are going to take a closer look at some of the common benefits of roller chains made of stainless steel. Read on to find out more.

Rollers chains are also commonly used in conveyor belts and many other industrial assembly environments. Aside from this, you can find these systems in many other environments too.

Advantages of Stainless Steel Roller Chains

Although these products are made of other metals as well, stainless steel is the most common one. This is because this metal offers a lot of benefits. Some of them are listed below. Please note that this list doesn’t talk about all the benefits the unit offers.

Food Applications

Stainless steel roller chains are quite popular in the food industry for many reasons. One of the main reasons is that the steel offers immense strength unlike other metal types you can find and use.

Therefore, products made of this metal can withstand even extreme conditions. Another good thing is that it’s much easier to clean. For instance, in an environment where food packaging, processing and handling is done, you may need to clean the chain more frequently. This is what makes these roller chains a great choice.

Temperature Resistance

Another great thing about these roller chains is that they can work fine even if you place them in an environment where temperature exceeds 400 Celsius. In the same way, they won’t stop working even if you use them in a place where temperature drops below -20 Celsius. This is what makes it an ideal choice in environments that are not good for other metals.

Corrosion Resistance

They are also corrosion resistant even if used in acidic or alkaline environments. In many industries, these roller chains are used either in alkaline or acidic settings. This is why they are preferred in a lot of industries. Aside from this, it offers quite low magnetic permeability. Therefore, we suggest that you opt for them instead of other options out there.


Another good thing about these chains is that they are heat treated for a lot better temperature resistance. Plus, they are put under a lot of stress for testing purposes to reduce the chances of stretching issues or premature leakage. So, as far as safety is concerned, this is the best choice you can take. They can save you a lot of money due to their long lifespan.

Long story short, these are some of the most common reasons why these roller chains are quite popular these days. Although they can’t be the best option for all types of applications, they can work well in many environments. Therefore, if you want to opt for them, we suggest that you give them a go. You won’t regret your choice.